Change Self

Quotes from Gary Zukav:

Changing the world begins with the very personal process of changing yourself.  The only place you can begin is where you are, and the only time you can begin is always now.

When you have an emotional reaction to what you see, you are judging. That is your signal that you have an issue inside of yourself – with yourself – not with the other person.

If you react to evil, look inside yourself for the very thing that so agitates you and you will find it. If it were not there, you would simply discern, act appropriately, and move on.

We cannot stop the winter or the summer from coming. We cannot stop the spring or the fall or make them other than they are. They are gifts from the universe that we cannot refuse.  But we can choose what we will contribute to life when each arrives.

We cannot control what emotions or circumstances we will experience next, but we can choose how we will respond to them.

Each personality draws to itself personalities with consciousness of like frequency, or like weakness.  Therefore, the world of an angry person is filled with angry people.  The world of a greedy person is filled with greedy people and a loving person lives in a world of loving people.

Know When to Let Go

Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength.  However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.    Ann Landers

You will find that it is necessary to let things go simply for the reason that they are heavy.  So let them go.  Let go of them.  I tie no weights to my ankles.  C. JoyBell C.

Stress is not what happens to us.  It’s our response to what happens.  And response is something we can choose.  Maureen Killoran

You have to meet people where they are, and sometimes you have to leave them there.  Iyanla Vanzant

Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.  C. S. Lewis

Anything that annoys you is teaching you patience.  Anyone who abandons you is teaching you how to stand up on your own two feet.  Anything that angers you is teaching you forgiveness and compassion.  Anything that has power over you is teaching you how to take your power back.  Anything you hate is teaching you unconditional love.  Anything you fear is teaching you courage to overcome your fear.  Anything you can’t control is teaching you how to let go.  Jackson Kiddard

The past will be your teacher if you learn from it; your master if you live in it.  Valentin

Accept Change

Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness.  How do you know this is the experience you need?  Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.  Eckhart Tolle

We can’t plan life.  All we can do is be available for it.   Lauryn Hill

Only through constantly changing can we achieve our greatest potential.  Robin Hart

. . . and then the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.  Anais Nin

Acceptance makes an incredible fertile soil for the seeds of change.”  Steve Maraboli

The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.   Socrates

If you do nothing unexpected, nothing unexpected happens.  Fay Weldon

Living is a form of not being sure, not knowing what next or how.  The moment you know how, you begin to die a little.  The artist never entirely knows.  We guess.  We may be wrong, but we take leap after leap in the dark.  Agnes de Mille

Obstacles For Your Good

Sometimes paths are blocked because they’re not for you.  You want your life to be a certain way.  On your job, you’re not promoted or paid as you believe you deserve to be.  Opportunities are not afforded you. There is constant tension.  You pursue an objective for many years and it doesn’t manifest.  You have specific intentions.  You do every single thing that you can think of to achieve a goal and don’t understand why it’s not attainable.

Maybe all of the doors that you’re knocking on are not meant for you.  One door is wide open; but, you think, “I don’t want that door.  That’s not in my plan.  I didn’t envision that for myself.”

However, if this is the only door that is open, your choices are to stay where you are or to walk through that door.  Personally, I’d rather see what’s on the other side than to keep doing what I’ve always done and to stay where I’ve always been, especially if I feel that my potential has been limited.

For me, it’s about trusting and having faith that, if this is the only door that is open, then this must be for me.  I must have the courage to step through that door and into uncertainty.

Many times we want things that are not for us.  The things that I put my highest effort towards were tangible things.  I wanted a job that gave me a certain amount of money.  When I switched to wanting intangible things, my life started changing very fast.  Opportunities opened that I would never have considered, but decided to accept even though I didn’t know why they were being made available to me.  I decided to just flow and say, “Wow! This is interesting.  Let me go with this.”

Going through that door has not yet given me the money that I want or need.  Nevertheless, I have received intangible experiences that matched my revised intentions: being around fluid, open, and friendly people; people who appreciate me and acknowledge my skills and potential.  When I chased money, I was rarely validated or affirmed.  I suppose I was around other people who were also primarily pursuing money and not really happy.  They expressed their unhappiness.  Being also unhappy, I was a receptive vessel.

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Be You

If you make friends with yourself, you will never be alone.   Maxwell Maltz

Success is doing what you want, when you want, where you want, with whom you want, as much as you want.  Tony Robbins

The world is full of nice people.  If you can’t find one, be one.  Nishan Panwar

You’re far more powerful than you may have been led to believe.  It’s time to remember your greatness as a powerful eternal being, a creator, a direct reflection of all that is and ever has been.  Stand in your power confidently.  Chantelle Renee

If you find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to someone, you have already forgotten your value.  Unknown

If you want to be happy, be.  Leo Tolstoy

Dare to love yourself as if you were a rainbow with gold at both ends.  Aberjhani Dare

Be Open to Learning

When you become the image of your own imagination, it’s the most powerful thing you could ever do.   RuPaul

You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be.  Marianne Williamson

I am open to the guidance of synchronicity and do not let expectations hinder my path.  Dalai Lama

Learn what you can, teach what you know, live how you ought.  Matshona Dhliwayo

The soul always knows what to do to heal itself.  The challenge is to silence the mind.  Caroline Myss

Surrender is when you get put in an absolutely impossible position, and you see that there is no other way but to surrender.  Ram Dass

Maturity is the ability to live joyfully in an imperfect world.  Richard Rohr

God’s delays are not God’s denials.  Robert H. Schuller

Create Space for the New

The discomfort of drowning is what taught me to swim. Jason Reynolds

When you are evolving into a higher self, the road may seem lonely; but, you’re simply shedding the energies that no longer match the frequency of your destiny.  Unknown

Surrender is when you get put in an absolutely impossible position, and you see that there is no other way but to surrender.  Ram Dass

I am open to the guidance of synchronicity and do not let expectations hinder my path.  Dalai Lama

Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness.  How do you know this is the experience you need?  Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.  Eckhart Tolle

Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.   Eckhart Tolle

You find peace not by rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level.   Eckhart Tolle

We Are All Deserving

A woman expressed her anger at people who voted for Trump.  I responded, “People are struggling and they want someone to get them out of their struggles.” She very angrily said, “well, they should work hard.  You can’t just want something.  You have to go to school and do well in school.  You have to do what you’re supposed to do.  We have all worked very hard and that’s how we got to where we are.”

This woman has a well-off father who provided her with a head start in life.  She’s married to a professional who earns an upper middle-class income.  She comes from a background and a family of means.  Everyone thinks they’re working hard wherever they are and that they deserve whatever they have.  If other people would work just as hard, they would be successful like them; but, those others simply like to complain.

My simplistic viewpoint is as follows: Some people are born at the top of the mountain and yes, maybe they are working hard to stay there.  Other people are born in the middle of the mountain. They are trying to get to the top and yes, that is hard work.  Some people are at the bottom of the mountain, but at least they can see the mountain and see others trekking up and down the mountain.  Maybe they share tips and suggestions with others who are climbing or who have come down and are going back up.  They all know the mountain; therefore, everyone shares tidbits, suggestions, networks, referrals, and so on.  Who you know counts for a lot.

Then there are people who are born in a pit with very steep sides.  They exist at the bottom of the pit, or halfway up the pit.  Maybe they got to the top of the pit, but they’re exhausted and are just trying to stay at the top and not slip back down.  People in the pit are probably working much harder than the people at the bottom of the mountain because at the bottom of the mountain they’re not slipping back.  They’re on flat land.  People in the pit go up a little, but the sides are steep.  If they lose their grip, or they get tired, injured, or somehow lose their resources, they slide back down.  It becomes a cycle.  They slide down, then struggle to get back up.

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Make the Life That You Want to Live

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I’ve been absolutely terrified every moment of my life and I’ve never let it keep me from doing a single thing that I wanted to do.   Georgia O’Keefe

The one thing that you have that nobody else has is you.  Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision.  So write and draw and build and play and dance and live as only you can.  Neil Gaiman

It’s your place in the world.  It’s your life.  Go on and do all you can with it, and make it the life you want to live.   Mae Jemison

The most powerful weapon on earth is the human soul on fire.   Ferdinand Foch

I have not always chosen the safest path.  I’ve made my mistakes, plenty of them.  I sometimes jump too soon and fail to appreciate the consequences.  But I’ve learned something important along the way: I’ve learned to heed the call of my heart.  I’ve learned that the safest path is not always the best path and I’ve learned that the voice of fear is not always to be trusted.   Steve Goodier

You can get what you want or you can just get old.   Billy Joel

When I quit my second job, my father told me a rolling stone gathers no moss.  I told him, “but a rolling stone gets to places.”  After many years, he agrees with me now.  Dichen ‘Di’ Dicden

What Got Me Through

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There is no easy walk to freedom anywhere, and many of us will have to pass through the valley of the shadow of death again and again before we reach the mountaintop of our desires.   Nelson Mandela

Someone was hurt before you, wronged before you, hungry before you, frightened before you, beaten before you, humiliated before you, raped before you . . . yet, someone survived. . .  You can do anything you choose to do.  Maya Angelou

Strength does not come from winning.  Your struggles develop your strengths.  When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.  Arnold Schwarzenegger

You’re going to go through tough times – that’s life.  But I say, “Nothing happens to you.  It happens for you.”  See the positive in negative events.   Joel Osteen

In my deepest darkest moments, what really got me through was a prayer.  Sometimes my prayer was “Help me.”  Sometimes a prayer was “Thank you.”  What I’ve discovered is that intimate connection and communication with my creator will always get me through because I know my support, my help, is just a prayer away.   Ivanla Vanzant

There was a special kind of gift that came with embracing the chaos, even if I cursed most of the way.  I’m convinced that, when everything is wiped blank, it’s life’s way of forcing you to become acquainted with and aware of who you are now, who you can become.   Jennifer DeLucy